Recorded on Easter Sunday, Episode 36 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't takes a reflective turn as Matthew and Nancy explore the phrases and personal growth mantras that have quietly become part of how they think, talk, and live. These aren't things they would've said when they first got married — but somewhere along the way, words like "honor the struggle," "bring the joy," "what would my better self do?", and "rejection is God's redirection" became part of their vocabulary. And they mean it.

They get into the messy middle of setbacks, what it really means to summon the best of yourself, and why "just one more" can be the hardest — and most important — thing you say to yourself. They also talk about faith, legacy, grandkids, learning to listen to their adult kids without parenting them, and why being present in the moment is something grandparenting finally taught them to actually do.

It's funny, it's honest, it's recorded on Easter — and yes, they will not be editing it.

🧑‍🤝‍🧑 People Mentioned:

• Ed Mylett — source of the "just one more" concept
• Nancy's mom — referenced in the context of saying things your parents used to say
• Matthew and Nancy's adult children and grandchildren (unnamed)

🏢 Companies/Organizations Mentioned:

• BlackRock Church
• GrowthDay / Ultra (Brendon Burchard)

Ever wonder why your partner thinks the way they do — and why no amount of explaining seems to change it? Matthew and Nancy took the Gallup CliftonStrengths assessment through a leadership class at their church, and the results were equal parts validating and hilarious. Matthew's strengths — Learner, Achiever, Futuristic, Belief, and Responsibility — put him squarely in strategic thinking mode, always planning, always visioning, always reaching for what's next. Nancy's strengths — Communication, Consistency, Significance, Harmony, and Responsibility — make her a powerhouse of influence, relationship, and execution. The twist? His top two are her bottom two. Her influencing strengths are nowhere in his top 10. And somehow they've been making it work for 37+ years without knowing why.

In this episode they unpack the four quadrants — executing, influencing, relationship building, and strategic thinking — and what it looks like when a couple brings completely different ones to the table. About why Nancy doesn't need to be a strategic thinker, and why Matthew needs to stop requiring her to be one. And yes — about the moment Nancy dictated an entire list to Claude AI during a 45-minute drive just to get Matthew his beloved bullet points.

Stop trying to fix your weaknesses. Stop trying to change your partner's wiring. This episode makes the case for leaning hard into what you're actually great at — together.

• His tops are her bottoms — and that's actually the point
• Weaknesses aren't meant to be fixed, they're meant to be acknowledged and handed off
• Four quadrants: executing, influencing, relationship building, strategic thinking — and most couples don't bring the same ones
• When you stop trying to change your partner's wiring and start working with it, everything gets easier
• Hire, delegate, or partner to cover what you're not wired for
• Nancy's son called her "spicy" years ago — turns out Harmony's description of "straightforward" basically confirms it
• Matthew has been futuristic and strategic since 2014 — the top two just swapped
• Executing is where they both shine and where they get things done together — selling the house proved it

🧑‍🤝‍🧑 People Mentioned:

• Mel Robbins — mentioned in reference to the 5-4-3-2-1 rule

🏢 Companies/Organizations Mentioned:

• Gallup CliftonStrengths — the assessment Matthew and Nancy took
• GrowthDay — referenced as a past personal development experience
• Claude — Nancy's shortcut to making Matthew's beloved list (yes, really)

In Episode 34, Nancy and Matthew explore the power of clarity in relationships, life decisions, and the next chapter ahead. They reflect on how, early in marriage, assumptions often replaced communication—and how real clarity only comes through growth, experience, and intentional conversations.

Now in a new phase of life, they break down their individual top priorities—from faith and marriage to financial freedom, legacy, and purpose—and discover that alignment isn’t about being identical, but about understanding each other deeply.

They also share insights from their recent GrowthDay event in San Diego, where conversations around AI sparked a new level of curiosity, creativity, and possibility for the future.

This episode is honest, reflective, and full of those “wait… that’s actually important” moments that come from real-life conversations.

Takeaways:

1. Clarity in a relationship is a gradual development that requires ongoing communication and understanding.
2. Early assumptions in marriage often lack true clarity, leading to misunderstandings and unmet expectations.
3. Identifying evolving priorities such as faith, family, and finances fosters greater alignment within a long-term partnership.
4. Reflecting on personal goals is essential for couples to navigate the complexities of their relationship effectively.
5. Recent travel experiences can provide fresh perspectives on personal clarity and future aspirations.
6. Leveraging technology, such as AI, can enhance decision-making processes and improve communication in relationships.

Companies mentioned in this episode:

1. GrowthDay
2. ChatGPT
3. Claude
4. Gemini