Join Auntie Kiki (Kiki Astor) on the "Awkward Etiquette Old Money and New Manners" podcast as she uncovers the secrets to a truly timeless existence. This episode dives deep into why the old money aesthetic resonates so deeply and how you can integrate effortless elegance into your home, wardrobe, lifestyle, manners, and even your approach to aging. Inspired by a surprising home tour, Kiki shares practical tips on choosing honest materials, embracing thoughtful editing, and cultivating an attitude that transcends fleeting trends. Learn how to create classic spaces and styles on a budget, conduct a "digital detox," and practice timeless etiquette that makes you—and those around you—feel valued and comfortable. Discover how to live an iconic life that is fluid, intentional, and always in style.

Key Topics Discussed:

- Timeless Elegance: Embracing the enduring appeal of the old money aesthetic.

- Timeless Design: Secrets for creating ageless spaces, focusing on materials and the "Light & Touch Test."

- Budget-Friendly Home: Smart strategies for achieving a sophisticated home without breaking the bank.

- Avoiding the "Time Capsule": Blending eras for a personalized, comfortable, and classic living environment.

- Digital Detox & Analog Living: Cultivating intentional, less-connected daily practices.

- Timeless Entertaining: Classic approaches to hosting and celebrations, including weddings.

- Ageless Style & Investment Dressing: Building a wardrobe that stands the test of time through quality and fit.

- Graceful Aging: Focusing on vibrancy, posture, grooming, and an engaged mind over cosmetic fixes.

- Timeless Manners & Etiquette: Developing intentional, respectful, and fluid social skills.

- Strategic Trend Integration: How to selectively incorporate trends while maintaining a timeless core.

Kiki Astor's Novels Mentioned in the Episode:

- Scarlet Fever (Dark Inheritance series: old money rivalries, haunted equestrian, suspenseful romance)

- Pink Palazzo (historic homes, evolving aesthetics)

- Low Season in St Tropez (1920s design, new materials for classic looks)

- Midnight Blue (forthcoming, perfumery, analog vs. tech)

Upcoming Event:

Santa Barbara Literary Festival, May 2nd & 3rd, 2026. Kiki Astor will be on a romance panel and hosting a workshop on self-promotion for writers.

Connect with Auntie Kiki:

www.kikiastor.com

Mailing List: Sign up on Kiki Astor's website for updates on books, appearances, and more.

Pressing etiquette and old money style questions? Ask Auntie Kiki!

madamexofmontecito@gmail.com

Thank you for listening to The Awkward Etiquette Old Money and New Manners Podcast!

Have you ever scrolled through social media and felt an overwhelming sense of inadequacy? Everywhere you look, people seem to be living incredibly expensive, flawless lives filled with luxury travel, designer shopping, and perfect morning routines. But is it real?

In this episode, Kiki Astor breaks down the jarring difference between influencer wealth and actual wealth. We explore the history of performative wealth, from ancient Rome and the Court of Versailles to the Gilded Age and the 1990s, and explain how social media has turned the appearance of wealth into a highly lucrative business model. We also discuss why the "Old Money" aesthetic is trending, how to spot the red flags of aspirational performance (including a look at the Becca Bloom conversation), and most importantly, how to consume social media without letting it ruin your peace of mind. Tune in to learn how to cultivate a genuinely rich life that doesn't need an audience.

Key Takeaways:

- The Illusion of Online Wealth: Why keeping up with online influencers is fundamentally different (and more damaging) than keeping up with the Joneses.

- The History of Status: How wealth has been performed throughout history, comparing modern social media feeds to the Royal Court of Versailles and the Gilded Age.

- The Influencer Economy: How the algorithm rewards visibility and creates a cycle where presenting an aspirational lifestyle is a mandatory part of the job.

- Real Wealth vs. Fake Wealth: The true markers of old money and real wealth, which include control over your time, multi-generational thinking, discretion, and lived-in continuity, not unboxing videos.

- Protecting Your Peace: Actionable advice on how to view social media as entertainment rather than a benchmark for your own life and financial stability.

Quotes from the Episode:

"The goal of that whole world of online wealthy influencers is not really stability... It's about visibility."

"A lifestyle develops slowly... Content is designed to work instantly, and it is meant to be visible."

"The best luxury isn't bought or posted. It's lived exactly on your own terms."

About the Host:

Kiki Astor is a romance author, former rich person, and your resident old money and etiquette expert. She helps listeners navigate the modern world with historical context, grace, and a healthy dose of reality. Visit http://www.kikiastor.com for books, merchandise, and advisory services via Cameo.

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